Some guys, for all kinds of reasons, will blow up their relationship. If you reply, he may end up playing a game of not responding to you to get the upper hand. Start no contact as soon as you can. I later on asked him why he hasnt been as loving to them as normally he is, and he blew up saying he didnt want to be around my kids. We can never be sure how relationships will jell. My 2.3 year relationship ended and my ex was facebook official with someone else within 2 weeks. Lets hope he realizes the folly of his ways. Ok. I appresate your help. But dont forget, by implementing the No Contact Rule, you are showing some personal power. Hes very stubborn. My boyfriend ended our 5 and a half year relationship by saying he wasnt happy. What does it mean and what should you do? Question What if he comes to your house during no contact? You go in thinking that he is a shoe in to message you throughout the period but it doesnt happen at all. Never said it since. We broke up on a Sunday and whilst I said i thought there was something to fight for he was clear wed made a choice to part ways and that was right. Because I have literally been in that position before. So, the scene I have just painted above is pretty simple. I dont know he is missing me or not. I wrote a break up letter per the suggestion of some other programs. That is how I see it. You are right Debra. We have also discussed how it is possible that just the act of breaking up can cause a guy to paint himself as the victim. He will notice you and the seeds of attraction can be planted every day. A mans heart is stubborn. What do I do ? Well, its not that they cant be good its just that viewing relationships as a game is not going allow you to succeed. We both spent a very good time together. We are currently on day 4 of NC and it is killing me. Work was busy etc. Well, one thing that you can automatically assume is that a guy who doesnt contact you during the no contact period always has a bit of stubbornness to him. All of these social media actions can help you in many ways. I cheated on him with an ex lover for about the second to last month if our relationship . I broke 3 weeks of NC out of anger and sent him a bitchy text and he blocked my number and then I apologized and then he unblocked my number and apologized for how he ended things, but said he is focusing on himself and then a week later unfollowed me on Instagram. If you think that no contact is guaranteed to: Then I have some really bad news for you. But, generally speaking, most people are going to fall in that 30 day time frame. You should start it immediately after the break up, not when dialogue is open and the relationship is seeking to find itself. Thank you. He said because we arent able to date now we should just leave it and he wishes hed met me after all this was over so we had a proper shot at the relationship. And having fun and fulfilling experiences is part of that. We werent arguing much and I havent been able to understand his reasoning behind it. Thats right, he is losing his freedom to see youtalk to you.touch you.and text you. Wouldnt the no contact period make it easier for him to be with her?. So, if he gets angry because he notices youre having fun, and then decides that he will move on too, what do you do? He always said that he would marry me one day but then he said that he doesnt like me anymore and dont want to spend life with me. Am I doing no contact correctly?? If your ex boyfriend pushes back in a ugly way or even just in a neutral way, just meet his resistance with kindness and brevity! Im so confused because I dont want to lose her. I feel like I live inside your broken hearts. Lets say you havent texted or responded to anything and youre just ignoring him and now hes super angry because of it. Should I message him or move on ? I digressed a bit. I can see his pictures posted on instagram and he seems to be happy. I love and miss him so much, Hey Claire, it is only you who can deicide if you want to move on or not, I am happy to give you advice with whichever path you choose. Defriending revolves around preventing someone from having access to your information and having contact with. What unfriending but Read more. Is he just done ? I have been through this several times. Its been almost 90 days since we talked and Im really wondering if he has moved on, he said he left because I betrayed him by saying I was friends with someone else he clearly holded such a grudge to and I have no idea if hes moved on or not, a few days ago that one person he holded such a grudge to tried to talk to him and he got really mad for a few hours, does this mean he hasnt moved on? Im just wondering whether I should give up and never contact him again. And then after a week or two, he gets angry because you keep ignoring his texts of asking how are you. I mean hes pissed because I look like I just dont care after all!. Learn how your comment data is processed. It can also be used to detach yourself from a narcissistic or abusive partner. Take care not to over-analyze the situation. But when he got visa he didnt tell me but used to talk normally like friends. I use the word falling prey, because the old flame phrase originated because something went wrong.things flamed out. Will inform you with date. We were not at full plus capacity and we began bickering with each other. Ok, so most men are more than happy to feel victimized if they were the one who had to initiate the breakup. What are you talking about Amor? I then sent another one and he still hasnt Why? Why would be want to move so quickly with her ? Now, I do want to be realistic. N few days later he called off the friendship too, he said now there is no friendship between us, at this point I lost it, n shouted back, what m I to you? He got angry on it n said ok. Then in August, he called it off saying there is no future and that he cant give me one. Your email address will not be published. I was getting upset when he did but I didnt say anything . It might take 90 days of no contact. I did my best that Id take care of everything and it would not affect him. Then he stopped watching any of my Snapchat stories . And worst, this kind of thinking can cause you to act out on what you are thinking. He also told me he had a secret camera he put in my room and saw everything . Well, like I explained above. But the most important part is that you go out. Its just that we are afraid to open up about it. She said she hoped I would understand where she was coming from and she could not keep coming to this point. While your expectations have been managed your only human and you cant help but wonder what is going on in his mind. But mostly he was listening. I just received a text at the 24 day mark. Do you continue to explain why youre ignoring him? That's the opposite of what you want your ex to think and feel! Why Not Learn So Much More By Reading The No Contact Rule Book. In the beginning he was periodically call me and text me very little now that Im at this point he has been calling me every day as often as multiple times a day. I recently had my girlfriend break up with me and I dont know where to go from here. How do i know if she means what she said or if she wants me to fight for her? I just dont want you to think Im leading you on. In fact, I recently filmed a video about just that. Well, while you are discouraged that he hasnt grown a spine and contacted you to at least see how you are doing he is sitting back chanting. I am glad you are finding some peace. I asked what about. For example, I remember when I was younger and a girl I was falling for wouldnt respond to my texts I logged on to Facebook and looked at her profile to see if she was online. What I should do? Essentially what I am going to be doing here is bridging the gap between you and your ex boyfriend. Because youre are going about things in the wrong way. Sometimes it is up to you to reach out and form that emotional attachment. After that happened he lost his job and had issues with his family and has had a pretty deep depression going on Ive stuck around and said I wasnt going anywhere but conversation started to be lucky if I got one to two texts a day. He is a very angry, stubborn person, who just always sees mistakes in others firsts. Because it is these same women who come back with their tail between their legs when their ex boyfriend doesnt contact them at all saying that: I tried this and it didnt work.. What do I do now??????. You stayed strong during the whole 21, 30, or 45 days of No Contact. Your feelings for your ex is probably in flux, right? You cant control how your ex feels. Dont allow yourself to be guilted into thinking you should feel miserable. Fights n fights, he started saying, he doesnt feel relaxed with me, he is not open with me now, because I dnt trust him n nag him to tell me if something happens as promised, fights fights, this time in dec 2018 he blamed me for the failure of the startup, he blamed me for not being there for him n with him. You just initiated the no contact rule immediately after the break up. He left for 3 days, then returned to make things better. What should you do if your ex does not respond to your first contact message? But so does your ex boyfriend. Then you happen upon Chris website and start learning about how you can go about getting your ex back. He has an avoidant attachment style and has difficulty expressing his emotions. I know it hurts if you see or hear that he is with another girl. Seeing his number go up on Snapchat every minute of the day . For example, if you go into this and literally think to yourself: You know what, he doesnt owe me a thing. Keep in mind that he said hed love to be friends and that he still wants to talk to me. My ex boyfriend and I were together a little over 2 years. I know NC is hard, but as you will learn in my program, much of your efforts during NC is to focus on you and your recovery and you will be little good to yourself or in your efforts to get her back if your head is not right! What do you think I told women to do after no contact? You found us! I felt he was increasingly living off me, not putting in any effort around the house. Now he is abroad. You finally stopped because he got angry with you. Your life does not revolve around whether your ex contacts you or not. So lets dive back into the No Contact world. Improve the health, wealth and relationships aspects of your life. I dont know if he will resolve his issues, and give us a real shot at a committed relationship. Too many people fail to realize that being in love has one big negative, loss. And he will probably show that he doesnt care. Hi, Finally after days of him just not answering I tried no contact . Hmm Idk. But my experience in these matters has taught me that often these other relationships an ex will get involved in are short term. What did you do then? Remember the mantra! Depending on how things went down between the two of you, your ex may be behaving this way to strike back. We developed a great bond and we were together for 4 years. Hello! Originally, I thought it would be fun to write a massive program on how to get your ex boyfriend back and see what happened. Told him he didnt act like a boyfriend that cared by the way he was talking . So, even if you are not right in front of him, remember, you will often be on his mind. Now, I am not saying you cant ever get him back. Hell probably even show you that hes having fun too to throw you off. We are perceived as weak by other men if we talk about our feelings. Hes damaged ! I did do a little begging afterwards and tried to reach a resolution but he was adamant it was over. No contacting your ex's friends or family. Do you remember what I said the main purpose of the no contact rule was? I got myself free. It could be that they want to keep tabs on you, or they're hoping to get back together with you one day. We fought a lot, broke up several times but we knew how much we love each other so git back each time. what you are up to. He was supposed to come back the next day after hunting . document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Implemented the no contact rule and its been 3 weeks now and havent heard anything. Anger has a way of fusing out after some time. So, do yourself a favor and dont turn into that on me. Remember, the line between love and hate is very thin. Remember, youre not doing anything bad. Remember, the no contact rule is only the first step of the entire ex boyfriend recovery process. Later I posted a pic of mine to which he respond, looking cute n happy, good stay happy, day after that, I posted a pic with a dog, he reacted, did you buy this dog. It could be due to the possibility that the break up was a really bad one. I was hurt deeply and Im just starting to feel better. Dont start going on dates (early in the process) or sleep with a guy. I would just say I love you in the morning and at night . I have listened to many readers stories. Nor should you have complete control over another person. Then there was a lot of begging and pleading after which I got frustrated and told him Im dead to him. I havent heard another word from him, which is good, I guess. This is me taking responsibility for not explaining the no contact rule as thoroughly as I should have. So, there is no use getting all depressed over a strategy that is literally at its beginning. However, considering this guy said he does not want to marry you, which is something you want for yourself one day, one reason to move on. Lets breakdown some of the most common reasons why your ex can become angry during the No Contact Period. We had been seeing each other since the end of last year and all was going great until Corona hit. Its just as simple as that. Wondered if you could advise. But I question if I made the right moves. I am thinking if he would want me then he can call me or text me on whatsapp. Lets get more realistic and centered! Time will tell how he really feels about things. But it can also be your way of influencing the way he thinks about you. Dont allow him to put the blame on you. Obviously she was very upset about the whole not being contacted situation. I was trying to let him take it slow . But he doesnt view my stories he ignored my dad . That way you can become more interesting to him. My pride told me not to do it but my heart wanted to so bad. I love what I do. He went on and off with me while he was not getting visa. But look, I am a glass is half full kind of girl! Well, just because a man is stubborn and wont contact you doesnt mean that he doesnt miss you it just means what we all already know, hes an idiot :p . However, his pride is telling him not to do it. Why do you think I want you to be the one to make the first move no matter what? I later learned during our last 2 months together he went on tinder and started dating some girl. What to say? Since this guide is specifically focusing on men who havent contacted you during NC lets use that as an example. Im still on his Snapchat also . Does your ex boyfriend even need to contact you during NC for you to be able to get him back? It can too frequently remind us of all the negative possibilities. It was a rocky one, but the high was worth the pain. So dont throw away all your hopes. N we cut the call. While I am certainly annoyed to get responses like that I do have to take some of the responsibility. (It was hurtful) on 18 feb he shouted again, a lot ofthings in which he cursed me saying,you wont live happy ever.. N many other things. Assuming that your guy has followed the progression I outlined above and is holding resentment towards you for the breakup that occurred you can probably expect the following things to be going on in his mind: You can always expect a little bit of stubbornness to be involved when it comes to someone using silence as revenge. But I feel like I have not given him a chance to miss me because we still talk a lot and we have hooked up twice since the breakup. Sometimes your ex boyfriend wont be able to see the error of his way or learn to forgive you of your mistakes unless there is a clean break. There are a lot of different reasons for why an ex boyfriend would refuse to contact you during the no contact period. Its been a week, probably not long enough. They think and hope that unfriending without blocking means that their ex still has feelings for them and that their ex may be using them as a backup plan. I didnt respond. Other than that, great relationship! So my bf and I have been broken up for a week. How do I know this? Because if he saw or heard about you kissing or hooking up with another guy, that might cause him to be vengeful and do the same thing too. I didnt do anything. We spoke the following Tuesday for an hour. I told him this was the case the whole time, why was he making an issue of it now? You see, a large portion of women who visit this site are under the impression that all they have to do to get their ex back is the no contact rule. So lets dive a little deeper into this topic. Also, just perhaps it is a good thing that he does not want to talk with you. If so when and why should I say. I know he was getting annoyed he said he loves me but cant ever be with me . What if he decides to never talk to me because Im implementing the no contact rule?, Im already losing him because of everything that Ive done, but I dont get why ignoring him would help? My dad has come up from Florida To visit and meet him finally . I descided I have had enough and I stated no contact rule. Very confused! You have control over the attitude you embrace each and every day. Rebounds dont last! because they absolutely can. I said ok, he said no not cause of that.. N I changed the topic. We still talk almost everyday and he says he still considers me his best friend. He said we can just be friends and shoot the sh*t, right.? I stopped bugging him and texting him throughout this time . We got on great and were in the exciting dating phase. If your ex starts to behave in this manner, it is likely he will eventually change this attitude because often its a spur of the moment reaction. Lets get some perspective! However, if he does end up biting the bullet and contacting you in that 21-30 day window that means there is a serious internal battle going on within him. Im sorry, I treated you bad, can we talk ! Sometimes we all get struck down by certain thoughts and notions that are simply not true or are exaggerated. What we are going to be getting into now is the actual ignoring part. He wouldnt talk to me at first when he found out . So I guess if Chris is the Ex Recovery Whisperer, then that makes me the Ex Recovery Listener! If events led to the two of your breaking off a serious relationship, then no amount of rushing around to put it back together again will fix the problem. If you think I slacked off when writing this then just let me know in the comments and I will be sure to correct the problems that you see. The first thing I do is answer my coaching clients (since its common for them to have a lot of questions.) Hi, And it allows you to maintain your dignity and leave the conversation in a position of power. Hey April I would say that you need to complete 30 days minimum or 45 max before reaching out, Hi, we have been together for 8 months. Maybe they're curious as to how you're doing or maybe they want to make you jealous. Apologize, but do so only one time and keep it heartfelt and brief. Seriously, when you sit back at the end of the day having completed a no contact rule what is it that you are aiming to have accomplished? He just says I dont think I will every love again or marry . It is OK for me as I need time to trust again and want to know him better before embarking in a new relationship. Ask yourself first. Those memories dont just disappear or waste away in a matter of weeks or months. He needs to see that you mean what you say and are willing to move on from him as you are allowing this pattern to continue means that you will never progress in your relationship or life. 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